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Top Dating Tips For The Transgendered

August 18th, 2008 by Babe

We came across some great dating tips for our transgendered community. The dating tips apply to crossdressers, transexuals and tranvestites alike, as their risk factors when datingcan increase due to their gender orientation.

Find out who your date is.
Ask for your date’s first and last name, where they work and live, and what they like and don’t like.
Ask around to see if anyone knows the person.
Introduce your date to others (e.g., your friends, the bartender.)
Tell a friend where you’re going, or call your own answering machine as if you were calling a friend.
Make sure your date knows you spread the word about them.
Choose public places, such as malls or restaurants, for first meetings. Leave your date’s name and telephone number with someone.
Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time when many people are present, and when the date is over, leave on your own as well. A familiar restaurant or coffee shop, at a time when a lot of other people will be present is often a fine choice.
Avoid hikes, bike rides or drives in remote areas for the first few dates. If you decide to move to another location, take your own car. When the timing is appropriate, thank your date for getting together and say goodbye.
Protect your valuables. Don’t carry extra cash.
If you bring someone home, don’t leave your wallet, cash, or valuables in sight. Your possessions — and the person you brought home — could all be gone while you’re in the shower or asleep.
Watch for red flags. Pay attention to any displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts at pressuring or controlling you.
Are they acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior.
You should also be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following conduct without providing an acceptable explanation:

Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc.

Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions.

Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members. This is an especially big problem for TG women with tranny-chasers. Not only is it insulting and degrading, but it’s a sign that they are not secure with their own sexual identity. This might prove to be a serious problem at a later point, whether it’s heartbreak, or even a dangerous situation where they take their self-hatred out on you.
If you decide to bring someone home, introduce her or him to a friend, acquaintance or bartender so that someone knows who you left with.
Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice, ask someone else on the scene for help, or slip out the back door and drive or run away. If you feel you are in danger call the police. It’s always better to be safe than sorry.