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Crossdressing - What It Is and What It Isn’t

Reprinted from the the Tri-Ess booklet What is Tri-Ess?

Crossdressing is common to several distinctive behavior patters. Crossdressers, drag queens, transsexuals, fetishists, female impersonators and others approach it with different motivations, and derive different satisfactions from it. While individual crossdressers may not always fit exactly into any one of these personality types, we can gain greater self-understanding and self-acceptance by considering how our motivations and satisfactions compare with each of these personality types.

Drag queens and female impersonators are the most visible types of crossdressers. Drag queens are usually gay or bisexual males who don women’s clothing, either to mock feminity or society’s stereotype of gays, to attract a sex partner, or to entertain.

Female impersonators are men who develop their crossdressing and femme manner into a performing art, usually for the purpose of making a living. They often perform impressions of classic performers such as Marilyn Monroe, Judy Garland, Mae West and Madonna.

An offshoot of gay crossdressing is drag prostitution. Like their female counterparts, they typically prefer to deal with heterosexual males.

Most of our society forms its impressions of crossdressing via female impersonators in night clubs, movie theators or on television, or through professional comedians - Flip Wilson and Milton Berle come to mind - who occassionally crossdress for laughs. To a lesser extent, the general public also has casual contact with drag queens or prostitutes on city streets. Thus, most people expect crossdressers to be outrageous, gay or hustling for sex.

Transsexuals are people who feel trapped in the body of the opposite sex. Male-to-female transsexuals believe deeply that they are actually females and seek sex-reassignment-surgery (SRS) to correct what they consider to be nature’s mistake. They typically go through a pre-operative period in which they live full-time as women. Though the transsexual doesn’t consider it so, most people see this pre-operative behavior as crossdressing.

Fetishists are crossdressers who have an erotic attachment to some article of women’s clothing. For them, holding or feeling or smelling or wearing such items is a powerful erotic stimulant. In some cases, these men are impotent without thier fetish.

The line between fetishism and crossdressing is sometimes unclear. Some crossdressers start with one or two articles of women´s clothing and find their interest growing. On the other hand, the fetishist seems to be “arrested” in his development, and appears to never go beyond the erotic attachment to certain garments.

So, how does “our type” of crossdressing differ from these other types?

In contrast with the fetishist, we cultivate a complete feminine image, with undergarments, makeup, wig, padding for hips and breasts, and even a femme name. And while it´s a sexually-arousing or sensual experience for some crossdressers early on, crossdressing does not take the place of sex with our wives or partners.

Unlike transsexuals, we know we are men and we like it. While we might occassionally fantasize what it would be like to be female, we have no desire to change our sex, although a small number of crossdressers (known as “transgenderists”) do opt to live full-time en femme.

Though gay and bisexual crossdressers do exist, the vast majority of crossdressers are heterosexul. Indeed, many people are surprised to find that we’re not interested in finding sex like the drag queen, or making a living like the prostitute or female impersonator. Many gay people are surprised to learn that heterosexual crossdressers exist at all!

For most of us, being free to act and move in a more feminine way, being treated as women, being free to adorn ourselves and feel the caressing touch of the many soft fabrics available to women - these feelings are satisfying in themselves.

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The Magic of Three Little Words

by Nancy Fagan, M.S., ExpertDatingAdvice.com

Saying “I love you” is the most beautiful gift you can give to your partner. These words are the most treasured a person can hear. You can say it a million times, and your partner will still want to hear it again, and again, and again.

The First Time

Does anyone know when the perfect time is to say “I love you” for the first time? It’s hard to say if it should be said after a week, month, or year after knowing your partner. Logic doesn’t seem to be a part of it. Instead, this is one decision that is usually dominated by pure emotion. You will know when the time is right. Like a baby that’s ready to be born, there’s no holding it back.

If you are at that point in your relationship and feel unsure about doing it, just use these tips to help guide you:

• If there is a strong affection or warm attachment (not just sexual), love is not far behind.
• Choose a quiet moment so your partner can hear you.
• Be sober when you say it.
• Say it as you are either holding your partner’s hands or stroking his or her face.
• Look your partner straight in the eye and say it.
• Mean it when you say it. Don’t waste any time once you realize how you feel.
• Be sincere.
• Say it in a foreign language first if you don’t want her to understand you. This way you will be able to test it out and see how you feel.

This article contributed by Nancy Fagan of Dr. Romance www.ExpertDatingAdvice.com Expert advice on Love, Dating and Romance.

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